Review: The Sexual Paradox

*** FYI – It’s a catchy title, but the book is NOT about sex in the ‘doing it’ fashion. ***I’m almost done Susan Pinker’s eye opening book which is nicely fitting along my general reading on human brains (The Stuff of Thought), evolution (The Selfish Gene), morality (Moral Minds: The Nature of Right and Wrong), civilization (Guns, Germs, Steel: The Fates of Human Society’s).

Here are the cliffnotes:

The Sexual Paradox

1. Men are extreme:

On the smart and stupid scale.

2. Men have a biological / evolutionary inventive to be risk takers:

Fight to get more women, which they impregnate, spreading their seed etc. You know, the usual evolutionary stuff.

3. Brain Stuff:

Dyslexics are more often men, their brain has functional differences that drives system level / conceptual thinking.

4. Successful Women Opt-ing Out (in particular Out of Science / Technology but basically high earning careers):

They need people connection, work less intensively to have / raise kids. Want to raise own kids even if more economically profitable to let someone else do it.

5.  Women are more Emphatic:

Evolution prompted this so we could understand babies needs before speech. (Also raise babies in groups).

6. Women don’t plan careers:

They fall into very successful, lucrative career patterns based on others expectations. They are very successful, which gives them the flexibility to opt-out. Women want flex time for family, personal life more than men.

7. (Some) successful women feel they are impostors:

Less ego centric – less likely to thing recognition, advancement is because of own success (true or not) vs. men (true or not).

8. Men are more competitive:

Again, the whole evolution / biology thing.

IMHO

So the basic idea is that hidden behind current gender equality in (western) societies is the reality that women want and are motivated by different things in their life (and hence career) which is reflecting the ‘real gender’ gap in the workforce. The big missing link in the book so far is how do we (as individuals) and as a society effectively manage these differences given that what women want leads to them having less economic power?

Crowd Sourcing Seen Everywhere

I have been recently seeing a lot of examples of crowd sourcing.That is for example:

- Ad copy

- Community project Mostly it seems like its being used for brands as a marketing tool / viral / we are so hip and cutting edge tool.Here are some things I’m will think about regarding crowd sourcing as I drive home tonight:

- What are the key elements that actually make people interested in participating in this? For me personally, I’ve experimented with ConceptFeedback. I guess I like giving my feedback because I feel I know something about effective design. Yet as someone who doesn’t design myself; there isn’t a whole lot to keep me coming back to the site.

Mailer’s Barbary Shore

Finished reading Barbary Shore by Norman Mailer. Ok to be honest, I skipped maybe 30-40 pages in the end because I kindda got bored with the inquisition part of the book. Plus the copy I have is so old and tattered that there was pages missing and as I finished the last page the backcover disassembled from the spine.The book is definitely ‘of a certain time’; for the most part it was hard to relate to the Soviet/Communist interrogation as it feel like its part of such a long-gone time.(As in, my post 9/11 world had other concerns like secret prisons, Gitmo, Blackwater etc.)The best part of the book is the way the Guinevere manipulation of the main character are vividly and deliciously described. There are passages of double meaning in the book that make you re-read them thrice and leave my mouth gaping at Mailer’s ability to shape plain ‘ole words into beautiful art.

Pakistan Fashion Week

Went to the Friday night showing for the ‘First Annual Pakistan Fashion Week’.  Okay, I will skip all the general commentary about contrasts in Pakistani society, conservative vs. extremely un-conservative…blah blah blah.The show was good.(Un-conservative: that’s going to be my new work for opposite of conservative given all the heavy meaning and language politics words can have.)Unfortunately, we were not allowed to take any “unauthorized” photographs (not that I would have anyways; way to look like a newbie) – so there isn’t much to post about.LOVED. This once girl (crowd) was wearing this lone vertically stripped poncho/long loose shirt off the shoulder type things. She also had a clutch in similar vertical stripes but thinner – which I LOVED. I was planning to pull a Sartorialist and be all like, I have a fashion blog can I photograph you? But the crowd after the show was insanely packed.Also loved the show for Sanam Chaudhry; it was full of flowing fabrics in amazingly vibrant colors. A lot of the peices were very vintage-y which I loved. Here collection was definitely very wear-able even if it wasn’t that innovative.I also really loved Maheen Hussain’s show which was basically scarfs and bags. I really loved the way she styles and showcased her products, and I the color combination were mouth watering-ly delicious.The last show was Rizwan Beyg and it was amazing – in all white with pearl embellishments and hand crafted his pieces were a work of art. Obviously, totally un-wearable but all about what clothes as art.The show was really well organized; even when the ‘bijli went out’ – the organizers did a great job. I also liked that they had awards for the best dressed women / men in the crowd. It was fun to get the interaction; an also all about how fashion is people own personal style.A LITTLE LESS LOVED.I was annoyed about the bored people looked at the time as if they didn’t really want to be there. Booo to the jaded socialite look. Also, boo to people that were clapping a little too loud and hooting! OMG.I was really enjoying the music too – especially whatever was playing during the Ismail Farid men’s wear collect. I can’t stop my body from moving when the beat is so good; but as expected everyone else was just sitting there with a bored look.Regardless – the fashion show was great. Hope to see a lot more of them in the future!

4 Indispensible Tools for any Marketer

1. Google ReaderIf you don’t know what an RSS feed is, learn about it now and start using them! For the rest of us, we all know the number one challenge (in any industry) is keeping up to date with what is happening in your field.RSS feeds make life 1000% easier since you can easily track the blogs/websites/people that you find most interesting.Google Reader is in my opinion the best way to manage and keep track of your RSS feeds especially you’ve got a built-in network of colleagues who are also using it to share items of interest. 2) Screen Capture ToolsBelieve it or not, I have three (3!) screen capture tools installed in my browser.Although anyone in the online field (online media, marketing, web development, product management) would I have more uses for these tools; I find it hard to imagine a job where there is no need to ever capture an area of the screen.

  • Notable App: I recently discovered NotableApp and have started using it. The best things about NotableApp is that it allows you to quickly and easily highlight certain areas of your screen capture and add notes. You can also email the link to the screen capture with your notes; though I generally end up saving and sending a pdf. The personal version is free to use, allows for up to 3 users and 3GB of storage. Noteable has a firefox plugin which makes it very handy. The big drawback is that it doesn’t let you grab an image outsize of your browser screen – and sometimes you need to include info on browser setting (i.e. for reporting bugs) or the date and time the screenshot was captured.
  • Aviary is a mind-bogglingly cool company. This have a full suite of tools online applications for editing including an image editor (Phoenix) a vector editor (Raven) and a newly launched audio editor called Myna. Given our internet speed; full-fledged image editing online is a little too slow; but this company is definitely going to be a game changer for things like Photoshop and Illustrator in the future. (Are they watching and creating their own competitive products? Hello… anyone out there?) Anyways, I mostly use their screen capture tool called Talon. Again it has a Firefox extension so image capture is an easy one-click away. Talon let’s you capture an area of the screen or the full screen and you can edit the image using Falcon which is an image mark-up tool, if needed. Again there is no way to capture info outside of the browser scree

  • Screencast is by TechSmith makers of SnagIt. In my previous job as product manager SnagIt was probably the most used tool. But since there is not free version of the tool I’ve had to go greener (cheaper?) pastures. Screencast needs to be downloaded and installed onto your computer. You can capture a whole page, visible page only or a portion of the page but the best part of Screencast is that you can capture videos. This is really handy if you want to explain an interaction to a developer, or need to capture an interaction. You also get space to store your videos on Screencast which is great as you can easily add links to things in presentations without blowing up the size of your presentation.

3) Delicious Using delicious is probably nothing new for most marketers, I add this to the list because it’s probably one of the tools I use every day. I’ve become a religious bookmarker and I save anything I find remotely interesting – creating presentations becomes so much faster when you don’t have to hunt for the right references and examples. Searching for your bookmarked items in delicious is usually pretty good as you can search based on title, tags or comments. Probably one of the under-used items in delicious is where you can explore other people public tags of things; it’s a good way to hunt out relevant pages/sites/things/ideas. 4) Brand Monitoring ToolsThere are tons of tools that help you monitor your brand online; totally indispensible if you are a brand / marketing / product manager. Although there are many, Viral Heat, PeopleBrowsr and more, the only one I’ve used is Social Seek because again its free.It takes less than 5 mins to download, install and setup SocialSeek. You enter your brand name and it will monitor it on a range of websites including Blogs, Twitter, YouTube and Images on Flickr.This is just my list; what would you add to it?This post was also published on PakMediaBlog @ http://pakmediablog.net/otherstuff/4-indispensible-tools-for-any-marketer/

Things missed: Street Fashion

One of the things I miss living in Karachi is the non-existent street life.For those who don’t know; basically if you are on the streets in the city you try to blend in as much as possible. You also have to avoid the general hotness, garbage in the street and ignore all the men staring. As in – not a place where any young people are going to be walking around in fun street fashion.Because of this I’ve been really into following street fashion blogs from around the world. My favorite is of course; The Sartorialist. Really what I love about what he shoots – aside from the loving depiction of people from all walks of life and beautiful to look at pictures – is the quirkyness of his subject. The subjects are not usually of  ‘fashion magazine’ perfect fashion sense – it’s all about how their style represents a personal statement.Below are a link of some of my recent favorite images. I just like looking at them and imagine the environment – it’s almost like a 30 second mini vacation.

I love bright yellow background (my fav color) and the moment captured (what is the conversation onthe phone?) In terms of the clothes I love the boxy men's style of the clothes which still to me looks very breezy cool and sexy.

I love bright yellow background (my fav color) and the moment captured (what is the conversation onthe phone?) In terms of the clothes I love the boxy men's style of the clothes which still to me looks very breezy cool and sexy. (Source: thesartorialist.com)

Young girl with skinny legs on phone.

Young girl with skinny legs on phone. I really like the contrast between this photo and the one above both in terms of the background, expression on the woman's (girl's?) face and the overall tone of the image. I love the outfit for its flow-y thick top and the skinny bare legs with short dress.

Other blogs I’ve been recently following include Feedshion which is (you guessed it) an aggregated fashion feed site.  Also love Feedpeeper (Peeps!) – but the RSS feed doesn’t include the pictures so that’s a booooo. But it does have street fashion from different cities which is fun to compare and contrast.